Monthly Archives: June 2006



Day of awakening

Sometimes you can’t really regard things as mere coincidences… On Friday, my stupid MSN name triggered a conversation. And the friend said to me something like "maybe that’s a wake-up call"… At that time, I replied…hmmm, no… I have had wake-up calls in the past and I don’t think I have (or need) any recently. And guess what, I think I received two wake-up calls on the next day. I don’t think that’s mere coincidence that I happened to have had the MSN conversation the day before. Now that I think of it, that certainess in my answer was a sign that I needed one, and maybe that’s why God decided to make me handle two of them at once.
But today with a calmer mind, I finally can think more positively. Wake-up calls are painful, but good. They force you to face situations that you chose to escape from. They make you look at what you’ve done to have resulted in mess like this. Crosses are hard to bear, but if the crosses are assigned to me, I could only bear with them. Whatever is Your will, please give me the strength to do it. Amen.

Appearance vs. Reality

Recently, a few things triggered some thoughts about this theme again. And I just came across a blog entry discussing about appearance… what a coincidence:
Sometimes I’m disappointed at how I said things with some intended meaning and how they got interpreted by others in a completely different way.. And how people perceive me as a person maybe very different from the way I perceive myself to be… We may think we know some people well, but we never know how close our perception is to the reality…
Hmm… don’t know what I wanted to say…


好! 繼續打埋佢!


明報副刊  成長樂(父親節特輯)  2006年6月17日




林超榮 0分   長女:好悶蛋






問大女林起瑩﹐一般跟爸爸玩什麼﹐她說:"多數見到他……" 她想了很久﹐才續說:"在家他常常上了去(上層)。有時打電腦﹐有時出了街。"爸爸搞笑還是兇惡? 她說:"佢淨係坐o係度打電腦﹐唔理我o地o架!"


但起瑩一點也不在乎﹐因為她說並不喜歡跟爸爸在一起。起瑩轉著眼睛說:"我鍾意媽媽﹐因為媽媽常常買些好漂亮的禮物﹐好像那些玩具。"她指向旁邊的My Melody與米奇玩具。爸爸送的呢? 她說:"那些全部都不是玩具來的。"是什麼? "不知道…..媽媽常常說‘都無用o既’。"她努力地找﹐將終於在書架上找到爸爸送的"禮物"–原來是林超榮獲學校﹐機構送贈的紀念獎座。


擅長創作的林超榮﹐在家裡也有說故事。女兒這樣形容:"亂o甘up o架。他常常說‘屙屎’那些。"他身兼影評人﹐為工作跟孩子去看電影﹐起瑩說:"你去做乜? 你去o訓覺﹐你不要去啦。"在傳媒界的社交能手﹐在女兒眼中好悶蛋:"他不愛開生日會的﹐橙汁他不喝的﹐淨係飲茶。"媽媽不在家﹐女兒為了最後那杯雪糕﹐才勉為其難跟父親去城門公園跑步﹐她說:"我不喜歡的﹐我愛跟媽媽去千色店逛街。"


林超榮的不修邊幅倒是真的。起瑩主動提起:"他朝早起身很久才刷牙﹐打呵欠好臭。"他有親你嗎? 起瑩立即皺眉拼命搖頭:"他惜林起菲(三女)﹐林起菲會‘呀!走!’,林起菲跟我鍾意媽咪﹐淨係畀媽咪惜。"作為爸爸﹐屈穎妍給丈夫50至60分﹐女兒卻給他零雞蛋。




明報副刊  2006年6月18日
三言堂     司徒華
在近乎絕望中﹐天使在路上﹐遇見一個俊朗健碩的青年﹐以及一個鬢髮蒼蒼的老人。她循例地問:"你有一顆最美麗的心嗎? 你知道誰有一顆最美麗的心嗎?"
出乎意料﹐那青年答:"我的心是最美麗的! 喜出望外﹐天使又問: "你怎麼知道﹐自己的心是最美麗的呢?" 那青年侃侃而說: "我年輕力壯﹐心跳的強而有力。我一生沒有悲哀傷痛﹐受過什麼刺激打擊﹐從來都是愉快歡樂的。所以﹐心不曾受過任何損害﹐保持得像初生嬰孩那麼完整純真。這不是最美麗的嗎?"
One more article to share, but already spent too much time typing tonight… will type that out later!

Excerpts from The Four Loves

I started reading this book for a few weeks now, reading really slowly, only during breakfast times… Before I forgot the important points, let me type them down~
Gift-Love vs. Need-Love
"The typical example of Gift-love would be that love which moves a man to work and plan and save for the future well-being of his family which he will die without sharing or seeing; of the second, that which sends a lonely or frightened child to its mother’s arms."
"There was no doubt which was more like Love Himself. Divine Love is Gift-love. The Father gives all He is and has to the So. The Son gives Himself back to the Father, and gives Himself to the world, and for the world to the Father, and thus gives the world (in Himself) back to the Father too."
 "Every Christian would agree that a man’s spiritual health is exactly proportional to his love for God. But man’s love for God, from the very nature of the case, must always be very largely, and must often be entirely, a Need-love."
"’The highest,’ says the Imitation, ‘does not stand without the lowest.’ It would be a bold and silly creature that came before its Creator with the boast ‘I’m no beggar. I love you disinterestedly.’"
"Thus one Need-love, the greatest of all, either coincides with or at least makes a main ingredient in man’s highest, healthiest, and most realistic spiritual condition. A very strange corollary follows. Man approaches God most nearly when he is in one sense least like God. For what can be more unlike than fullness and need, sovereignty and humility, righteousness and penitence, limitless power and a cry for help?"
"We must distinguish two things which might both possibly be called ‘nearness to God’. One is likeness to God. … Angels, we believe, have likenesses which Man lacks; immortality and intuitive knowledge. … But, secondly, there is what we mean, the states in which a man is ‘nearest’ to God are those in which he is most surely and swiftly approaching his final union with God, vision of God and enjoyment of God. And as soon as we distinguish nearness-by-likeness and nearness-by-approach, we see that they do not necessarily coincide. They may or may not."
2 Likings and Loves for the Sub-Human
Need-Pleasures vs. Plesasures of Appreciation
"Now it is a very old discovery that pleasures can be divided into two classes; those which would not be pleasures at all unless they were preceded by desire, and those which are pleasures in their own right and need no such preparation. An example of the first would be a drink of water. This is a pleasure if you are thirsty and a great one if you are very thirsty. … An example of the other class would be the unsought and field or a row of sweet-peas meeting you on your morning walk. You were in want of nothing, completely great, is an unsolicited, super-added gift."
"When Need-pleasures are in question we tend to make statements about ourselves in the past tense; when Appreciative pleasures are in question we tend to make statements about the object in the present tense."
"The smell of frying food is very different before and after breakfast. And, if you will forgive me for citing the most extreme instance of all, have there not for most of us been moments (in a strange town) when the sight of the word GENTLEMEN over a door has roused a joy almost worthy of celebration in verse?" <– not apply to me here
"Pleasures of Appreciation are very different. They make us feel that something has not merely gratified our senses in fact but claimed our appreciation by right."
"Scientifically both sorts of pleasures are, no doubt, relative to our organisms. But the Need-pleasures loudly proclaim their relativity not only to the human frame but to its momentary condition, and outside that relation have no meaning or interest for us at all. The objects which afford pleasures of Appreciation gives us the feeling — whether irrational or not — that we somehow owe it to them to savour, to attend to and praise it."
"How the Need-pleasures foreshadow our Need-loves is obvious enough. In the latter the beloved is seen in relation to our own needs, just as the scullery tap is seen by the thirsty man or the glass of gin by the alcoholic. And the Need-love, like the Need-pleasure, will not last longer than the need."
"Our Need-love for God is in a different position because our need of Him can never end either in this world or in any other. But our awareness of it can, and then the Need-love dies too."
"But in the Appreciative pleasures, even at their lowest, and more and more as they grow up into the full appreciation of all beauty, we get something that we can hardly help calling love and hardly help calling disinterested, towards the object itself. It is the feeling which would make a man unwilling to deface a great picture even if he were the last man left alive and himself about to die; which makes us glad of unspoiled forests that we shall never see; which makes us anxious that the garden or bean-field should continue to exist. We do not merely like the things; we pronounce them, in a momentarily God-like sense, ‘very good’."
The Third Type of Love — Appreciative Love
"It has revealed to me a deficiency in our previous classification of the loves into those of Need and those of Gift. There is a third element in love, no less important than these, which is foreshadowed by our Appreciative pleasures. This judgement that the object is very good, this attention (almost homage) offered to it as a kind of debt, this wish that it should be and should continue being what it is even if we were never to enjoy it, can go not only to things but to persons. When it is offered to a woman we call it admiration; when to a man, hero-worship; when to God, worship simply."
"Need-love cries to God from our poverty; Gift-love longs to serve, or even to suffer for, God; Appreciative love says: ‘We give thanks to thee for thy great glory.’ Need-love says of a woman ‘I cannot live without her’; Gife-love longs to give her happiness, comfort, protection — if possible, wealth; Appreciative love gazes and holds its breath and is silent, rejoices that such a wonder should exist even if not for him, will not be wholly dejected by losing her, would rather have it so than never to have seen her at all."
To be continued…


I haven’t listened to this song for so long and I forgot how nice the accompaniment is! Very very very cool guitar.. And I didn’t realize it’s 側田 who composed and arranged this song!  Very very very good! I tried finding chords… but really lost  Couldn’t resist to find the right one at guitaryou…
And my guitar teacher lent me his nylon string guitar. It’s so easy to pick on~ And the sound is pretty different, much more "acoustic". Kinda tempted to get one myself now… hmmm…
曲 : 側田 (on your mark)
詞 : 林夕
編 : 側田 (on your mark)
監 : 雷頌德
古巨基 Key: D
D                        Dmaj7
自問是未滿分  自問是沒信心
Em                    A
D                        Dmaj7
我要這世界知  我對你有幾痴
             G         Gm
            Em            A
D       F#           Bm          /A
    Em            A              D
    Dmaj7  D7
是嗎  認喇
             G         E       E7           A
             D   Dmaj7  D7
為你獻花愛嗎  愛喇
     B             G  Gm
        Em            A7
         G             A                  D
D                        Dmaj7
自問是大懶豬  自問是未夠班
Em                    A
D                        Dmaj7
我也有我法寶  我永遠對你好
             G     Gm
            Em            A
D       F#          Bm            /A
    Em            A              D
 Dmaj7   D7
是嗎  認喇
             G          E          E7        A
             D   Dmaj7  D7
為你獻花愛嗎  愛喇
    B               G  Gm
        Em           A7
         G             A                  D
小黑大王  信心保證
小黑大王 very ging!

水魚 ● 賊船 ● Pieta

在過去的一年中﹐有幸能參與 「生命恩泉」的製作。天主冥冥中揀選了我﹐讓我得以看到祂在眾人身上的作為。我若非這製作小組的一份子﹐大概也沒有機會去聽這麼多人親口訴說他們的故事。這些故事﹐透過當事人的嘴巴﹐一次又一次見證著天主無窮的愛。
今天聽了一個很動人的故事﹐是一個小男孩用短短的一生﹐如何令他身邊的每一個人﹐都見得到天主。他的母親﹐因著他的關係﹐開始理解到聖母在耶穌受難時的痛苦。這令我聯想起我在2004年到梵蒂岡時﹐剛巧有一個攝影展在Vatican Museum舉行﹐展出的是一個攝影師攝下一系列Michelangelo著名的雕像Pieta的照片。我當時看那些照片時﹐心中也在想像聖母當時會有多痛…
有一位修生曾經這樣說過: "God’s ultimate purpose in inventing sex is to give us the opportunity to populate heaven with saints." 這個小男孩﹐就是這樣的一個聖人。
天主﹐感謝你透過各事各人讓我體會到你的大能! 我還能求什麼?
在我們討論完各個可行的專題後﹐我才驚覺到我們是如何地缺乏人手… 可說的故事一點也不缺﹐但採訪製作的人卻非常欠缺。我們都說「莊稼多但工人少」﹐滿地都是可收割的穀麥﹐有一小撮人想盡力收割﹐但又割得多少?  若你看完這blog後有與趣參與(或知道有人有興趣)﹐請通知一聲!!! Thank you!


Very suits my mood tonight~  I remember last year when I was in HK/Japan, I kept playing this song on the plane~ Since then, whenver I hear this song (and most songs in {Free Love}), I’ve got this travel/relax mood attached to it, which is awesome! And found out tonight from hocc’s interview about this album, this song came from a song composition contest held by 903, and this is the 1st song written by the composer. She wrote it while travelling in Japan! (what a coincidence~~) 
Chords in this song are very easy to find.
作曲: 劉嘉琳
填詞: 傅珮嘉
編曲: 英師傅
主唱: hocc (of course!)
Intro:   C | C7 | F | G | C | C7 | F | G
@如何沈迷都不需要 童話般心跳
如何爲難都不想要 誰多多關照
情願欣賞我家貓咪撒嬌 看它伸懶腰
如何疲勞我只需要 由水花沖漂
如何怨憤我只想要 來放聲尖叫
G                                                        Em
情願忍一下挫折會報銷 太多開心 累吧
    Am              Em          Am          Em
求其說一個笑話 全場只得我笑吧
        Am                F
眉頭怕硬化 別皺緊鬆開了它
C                         Em
         F                  G 
C                             Em
F                           G
C                              Em
不想他跟她 你我在哪里有關嗎
          F                  G
現狀快樂嗎 不到我牽掛
沒記憶都可 燦爛過煙花
自閉不可怕 我樂於招架
即使會悶到 訓著也不怕
                                         C | C7 | F | G | C | C7 | F | G
         G                              C | Em | F | G | C | Em | F | G
能夠不牽掛 才不添置垃圾
Repeat # @
如何疲勞我只需要 由水花沖漂
如何怨憤我只想要 來放聲尖叫
G                                                           C | C7 | F | G | C | C7 | F | G | C ||       
隨便猜想我喝醉會發燒 自己一味亂笑

夜半敲門 (亞sir改良版)

This is the first song ever I tried finding chords on my own. I email the song and the chords to my teacher, and he disclosed the results today. I got around 50% correct  Okay la, so much to learn le. He said this song is really not easy, lots of different chords, he isn’t sure about some of them (hocc is so ging, yea!) And for some reason, everytime I send her a hocc song, he’d ask if it’s Sammi singing it  I guess I need to educate him about hocc… 
(Chords in brackets played with CAPO=3)
Key Bb-C (as opposed to Eb-F )
Learned a new C#m today, only knew x46654 in the past, yuen loi xx2120 is also C#m!

(C                           D            Bm                        Em)

Eb                                    F                Dm                                Gm
聽著聽著 聽著夜半有些聲音  逐吋逐吋地距離 門前漸近

(C                              D               Bm               E)
Eb                                       F                     Dm                    G
聽著腳步接近 共你兩手握緊 明明如此不安 都很慶幸

(C                 D)

Eb                      F                    
敲門 難道我終結已近

   (Bm        E            Am7     D               E)
    Dm            G               Cm7        F                   G   
重頭思索著 曾經怎做人 問那些 仍不忿

                 (C          D           Bm          Em)

       Eb             F               Dm             Gm 
就算他 在這刻拉走我 抱憾也不多

   (C               Am7      F                    D)
    Eb                   Cm7        Ab                        F
在今世裡面曾有過 若干晚抱著你幸福過

  (G         D/F#   Em7    D        G)

   Bb           F/A     Gm7      F         Bb
難逃過這一關 仍然未覺孤單 因為我 

(C        G/B            Am             D)
Eb         Bb/D               Cm                  F
就算 沒時間 臨危捍衛我的人已在臂彎

  (G         G7      Em7       F       G       C)
   Bb           Bb7     Gm7        Ab       Bb        Eb
明瞭沒有得揀 誰人何時遇上 催命子彈

    (G/B      Am         D           G)
     Bb/D       Cm             F               Bb
但有人 值得我 熱愛直到 身體變冷


         (A   G     D    Dm    Esus4)

Bridge: C   Bb    F    Fm    Gsus4


(D                               E             C#m                   F#m        A7)

F                                           G                   Em                           Am         C7
這樣告別 你問尚有哪些不甘 大概沒有吧 我們還能熱吻

(D                        E                       C#m          F#)

F                                 G                                 Em              A
每日試著讓你 過得開心 完成人生想擔當的責任

(D                   E)

F                           G 
死神 如若已飄到接我

   (C#m            F#         Bm7      E                A    A7)
    Em                     A            Dm7        G                     C       C7   
仍然可帶著 回憶的熱能 面對這場厄運

                   (D           E            C#m         F#)

          F                G                 Em            A 
就算他 在這刻拉走我 抱憾也不多

   (Bm7         D/A       G                        E)
    Dm7             F/C          Bb                              G
在今世裡面曾有過 若干晚抱著你幸福過

  (A             E/G     F#m7        A      A7)

   C                  G/B       Am7             C        C7
難逃過這一關 仍然未覺孤單 因為我 

(D        C#m               Bm                  E)
F             Em                      Dm                       G
就算 沒時間 臨危捍衛我的人已在臂彎

  (A           E/G     F#m7        G         A7     D)
   C                 G/B      Am7            Bb         C7         F
明瞭沒有得揀 誰人何時遇上 催命子彈

  (C#m         Bm          E                           G)
     Em              Dm             G                                   Bb
但有人 值得我 熱愛直到 身體變冷


         (D    Dm     Esus4    B)

Bridge: F     Fm     Gsus4    D


(D         E                              C#m)

F              G                                         Em                   
幸福 若未曾來過 只怕是離別更難

(F#m               Bm           D                 G              E)
Am                      Dm               F                      Bb                  G
可甘心 將要閤眼 尚慨嘆 未試過約會誰晚餐

             (A             E/G     F#m7          A      A7)

   C                  G/B     Am7                C        C7
難逃過這一關 仍然未覺孤單 這份愛 

(D         C#m               Bm                  E)
 F             Em                       Dm                        G
沒法 被離間 何曾怕沒法歸來 只怕你不慣 

  (A             E/G      F#m7       A        A7       D)
    C                  G/B        Am7           C          C7          F
明瞭哪有得揀 誰人何時病了 一睡不返

    (C#m        Bm                E                   A)
     Em                Dm                    G                         C
但我們 做得到 互愛直到 身體變冷

(Bm7               E                 A)
Dm7                     G                       C
聽著聽著 那種聲音 走遠了